We Humans love for things to be black and white. We seek clear defined answers. But the reality is that life is really anything but black and white. These areas are what I refer to as Life’s fine print. The exceptions to the rule. Most of us don’t like those. Some are better at accepting them than others. This is more so true when it comes to Love….
There is a storyline in one one of my upcoming projects that is very interesting for me. I had to step outside of my own personal opinions in order to write it.
See, I am very much a believer in being faithful within your marriage. And if you are not happy within your marriage you need to get out of it. Deceiving your spouse is unacceptable. But what if there is this other side…the gray area. Love’s fine print…
I explore this idea that two people of opposite sexes meet and what started out as an innocent enough friendship somewhere along the way turns into genuine love. But one of the two is married. What if the person you married is not your soulmate despite all things going well. You are happy and content within your union until you meet this other soul that makes you feel things you have never felt before. All those feelings you have for you spouse are more along the lines of contentment, familiarity, attachment and this other person awakens that “this is the one” inside of you. Its not a lustful thing. Its not a matter of wanting to have your cake and eat it too. And you weren’t even looking for extramarital activities. Because you never felt it before you perceived the love you felt before as being that “this is the one.”
I do believe, although rare, but possible that some get married thinking they are marrying their soulmate but not really. See this is the scary shit about love and marriage. Making a mistake and giving too much of my time to the wrong one…and potentially marrying the wrong one. Now true enough there are signs but what if those signs are simply overlooked as just one of relationships ups and downs.
Any who, getting back on track, i explore the idea that without meaning to sometimes a person finds their soulmate after having already entered into a union with someone else. And they are then left with this huge decision to walk away from this soulmate and continue life with their spouse who they will continue to love but not as wholeheartedly as they would their TRUE love. Or…walking away from life as you know it and building a new one with your TRUE love.
Now, I’m not saying leaving a spouse for another is right….but Im also not saying its wrong either.Most who do are foul. But what I’m exploring is that small group where the unexpected happens.
Do you believe in Soulmates? Or being with your Soulmate at all cost? What do you think of these gray areas of love? Do you find this to be wrong no matter the situation?
Well stay tuned as I explore this very dynamic in one of my upcoming projects….
Where being the side chick was totally frowned upon….until you became one.